A family barbecue in summer is always good, you know the ones. All the family descend on the back garden/yard. Nice relaxing atmosphere etc etc.
I’m rolling back around 10 years for this one in question which puts all our kids (nephews and nieces as well) at a very young age. So as you know with 8 kids, there ages ranging from 1-10 you have to have eyes in the back of your head.
The garden in question was the mother in laws, a big garden on a corner plot with woods and abandoned garages at the back of it. A 6 foot fence separates her patch and these said woods with a wooden gate and large tyre lent against the gate as a form of security to stop young explorers escaping. It was at the tyre where we witnessed a meeting of our child 3 and nephew 4. They where communicating how to move this tyre and thus embark on an adventure.
You see, the thing is neither could talk properly at that point, yet they where clearly understanding each other with grunts, gobbledygook and errr telepathy.
Fast forward to the present day and whilst they are very different, they still have that bond. I feel for the victims of this same communication on Xbox live.
Like I said in previous posts, my son 3 could have ADHD. He is very intelligent, well at his leisure at least and nephew is straight in the middle autistic. But we have noticed how many people of these two diagnoses connect with each other, in many cases unwittingly. One of my closest friends may touch the autistic spectrum but his brother is a definite. Another 2 of my friends have brother in laws who are well on the spectrum again one of these will never live independently. As for ADHD, the sister in laws 2 closest friends probably would be diagnosed with it, they are literally wired.
Living with one of these 2 diagnoses does definitely hinder you when forming friendships and relationships. When you do manage though you can get a pure no bullshit bond. What it’s say on the packet is exactly what you get so if you are struggling, keep going, trying and you also will find that bond. Good honest people are out there and will totally appreciate and get you.
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