Well, here it is! The first post. Why is it here? Well, just to let dads know that you are doing a great job. If you are reading this, then clearly you are trying and that is near enough anyone can ask. Could you do more?Well yeah, but you have to keep your mental well-being in check to and that’s ultra important.
Who am I? I’m the dad of four mad kids and husband of an insane wife, that’s the obvious answer. Never as straightforward as that, This is about being dad so I will mention my good lady a minimal amount of times because a lot of dad aren’t as fortunate as I am. My kid’s are all completely unique. I will number them 1 to 4. With 1 being the eldest etc. So 1.2 and 3 are teens or as near as damn it. 1, we did wonder if she was on the autistic spectrum. If she is, it is most likely only just. She has a very dry sense of humour and intelligent, a lethal cocktail to mock me with at times, some hilarious put downs. 2, Mr athletic, his current vice is boxing. Dads taxi in full flow 3 times a week and this is only the beginning, I’ve been more of a soccer guy but vowed never to live my dream through my kids so boxing at the moment it is. He is bugger for misplacing things and gets in a right flap when it happens but he is a good lad although not the sharpest tool in the box. He literally gets on with everyone, has loads of mates and has brilliant hand/eye coordination. If he continues like this then life will be a breeze for him.
Number 3 oh number 3. He will either be a Sherlock or a Moriarty. The lad can get in trouble but equally get himself out of it. On a serious note, we strongly suspect he has adhd. School can be problematic but all in all, he is doing better with it than expected. He could be a genius if it entertained him but it doesn’t. He loves reptiles and spiders, all animals like him. He is also decent cook. He enjoys it, so the plan with this one is to focus on his strengths and not his weaknesses. Just grind through lad. Number 4. Ultimately dads girl! Simply she is coming along a treat, doesn’t think dad is an idiot at the moment, very intelligent though not overly impressed with her new teacher at school. She gets super stressed if she can’t achieve something or things go her way. We are working on this.
Furthermore I am Uncle to 4 kids who are all either autistic or have adhd. Life has certainly been eventful but with the experience now under my belt, I feel I can empathise and help other dads whilst we bat through this wonderful shit together. It’s definitely got it’s moments, good and bad. Let’s celebrate the wins and take losses together.
PS I will post once a week, probably around mid week. Cheers guys
BeingDad 